1 STEP 1 - to remain calm
.First of all, after the scandal went public (the mean was admitted to an affair or you just got exposed to), you must remain calm. I know how hard it is to remain calm, the only thing you want to do is to slap on the face and leave home with their children immediately. But what about after that?
I'm really the wrong thing at the time was screaming at him every time he comes home and make big noise at home. It just pushed him away and will continue to be used as an excuse for not coming home.
Instead, you must be treated as a good friend with him and hear his appeal.
At a later stage after I became calmer, I even talked to him about another woman, his heart went for her pain. Yes, I know that my heart was broken as well, but he does not know at that stage. Therefore, you must be very strong. You can find all your close friends or relatives to talk about it, but it does not !!
2 STEP 2 - be a good wife and good mother
a more beautiful you are, the more guilty he becomes.
After all, the affair not only will not happen overnight, there must be something going wrong between the two of you for awhile, and you just do not want to face. They just fill in the gaps on someone else at the moment. Now is the best time for you to make up for what is missing or not done enough. If you can fill this gap, why bother to make the problem of how to support another woman or that they are so busy? All people do not like to be disturbed. Currently these women can be satisfied only seeing each other once or twice a week, but you know that women, after a while, they will be asking for more, and it is time that men get annoyed and want to get away from them!
3 STEP 3 - Find a Marriage Counsellor
On May still be in contact with a third party and are not willing to see the counselor with you.
It does not matter. But I am very sure that you really need some professional help and vent what happened. Go ahead and find a marriage counselor. Their professional advice will help you to think properly. If things go smoothly and her husband might want to tag along with you for some meetings.
This will speed up things faster.
4 STEP 4 - let the ill !!!
Well, this step may be a bit tricky to do. For my case, my husband got a timely accident and was hospitalized for 1 week. He had minor surgery and I was there 24 hours a day and sleeping on a tiny couch. I grabbed for him, prepared breakfast for him, and even swim in it! What man would not get touched when they see that doing much for him? And the best thing that a woman has contacted him one at all! How cruel, but that's exactly what I want! crueler it is, I'm beautiful. Of course, I'm not asking you to plan for disaster for him, but it's really, when people are in deep shit that they need your care the most. Try it and let the weak fall sick! I do not think that women will be going to his house to take care of it right?
5 STEP 5 - get yourself BUSY
You can not be crying and thinking about all the things miserable all day, so keep busy, to start a hobby, get connected with your friends. After all, your world is not just him. For me, I began my hobby of sewing and now I'm focusing on the development of new products in my store. Your spirit just got inspired when you have a passion for one thing.
6 Step 6 - Start Dating Again
If you're lucky enough to forget it that a woman (do not know how long it takes, it really depends for every man, but you must be very very strong in this period survived, things will get better, trust me) Please start dating again! After marriage, it is very common for couples to skip all the romance and surprises. Now is the time to start all over again. May be you were busy with the kids and forgot your grooming, why not get a new hair cut and to make for dinner, just the two of you?
7 STEP 7 - set a time limit and look forward to
I hope that all the above steps will help you survive through a painful time, and remember, be patient and be strong. Set a time limit for yourself and if things really do not work after the border, it is time for you to look forward. If you tried your best and he still comes back to you, why do you still want this man?
Live, love, laugh. We wish all of you will have a blissful marriage from now on.
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